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Why We Want To Be Able To Do Nothing, But Cannot Do Nothing For Long

We want to be rich so we do not have to do anything that we do not want to do, like go to work at a job we do not like or deal with the hassles of life because we cannot afford to just pay the money and be done with it. We want to live in a peaceful place so we can be completely still and silent and relaxed without obligations or pressure. We want this, yet so few people achieve it. Why? Why do we really want this freedom? For me, the reason is that it is only in that freedom from any obligations of life that my […]

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Why People Are Going Postal

Have you ever been, or talked to someone who is clearly upset and when asked; “What’s wrong?” insists that nothing is wrong? The more you probe, the more they resist. There is clearly something wrong but they will not open up. You write it off as being emotionally closed and eventually give up. The problem is, you are asking them to open up in a way that they have for generations been bred not to do. We have been taught that no one likes a grumpy or depressed person so never let your feelings out or people will dislike you. This is quite interesting because it dates back to the […]

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We Hold Ourselves Back By Confusing One Emotion With Another

We often confuse our emotions with what we think they are as opposed to what they really are. This misinterpretation of our feelings to the opposite will keep us limited as this process most often interprets a wise emotion or intuition as a weak emotion or fear as we try to identify and explain our feelings. Seeing yourself as weak instead of strong will obviously prevent you from getting stronger and dealing with situations appropriately. Someone with low self-esteem said that obnoxious crowds intimidate her so she withdraws emotionally. I would say they disgust her and being disgusted with them, her wisdom and intuition makes her not want to be around […]

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Guilt, Debt and Happiness

Not everyone, but many people, have a level of guilt, insecurity or self-consciousness, a general unease and discomfort around other people. This article is about the cause and thus how to release guilt and attain emotional freedom. The key is at the end of the article, but you need to read the whole thing! Guilt is caused by having a debt. If we pay our debts, we will have no guilt and in this relinquishment, be emotionally free and happy. Debt in this case can be money, but is far more than that, we are deeply controlled by emotional debts. If you believe you have a debt, it is going […]

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Understanding Words, How To End Anger and Conflicts

Words are our main form of communication. Words have the greatest power to make us happy or sad, aggravated or elated. How can something that has no actual material reality have such a powerful effect over us emotionally and physically? Here is a very old thought that gives an idea of how we can release ourselves from the effects of other peoples words; “If someone gives you a gift, and you do not accept it, who does it belong to?” If someone threw a pillow at you, and you did not react to catch it, it would bounce right off your body and fall away. How one interprets the meaning […]

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Pressure Causes Stress, Resistance Causes Pressure

This article will explain the cause of stress related to the pressures of life and how to eliminate the negative effects. Not only will that be explained, but you will also find how to use the pressure in a positive way. If you push on something, it resists being pushed. This applies to any material object, even air has a degree of resistance if you can feel it. This is the pressure of one force against another. Thought and opinions, although one could say are not a material substance, can often be thicker and more solid than a concrete wall. This is evident when two people of fixed but opposing […]

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How Making Decisions Relates To Depression And Happiness

Scientific studies show that people who feel they have no control over their life are more prone to depression, but people who feel they have control over their life in general are happy and positive. Therefore we can say in a generality that a feeling of lack of control leads to depression. We liken the mind to the tires of a car, in that a poor quality tire gives a very poor ability to control the car, it will not be stable to drive with an off balance wobbly or flat tire. If your mind is not strong and stable enough, you will feel you have no control over events […]

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What Goes Up Will Come Down

This article is about seeing and being able to use the positive in everything. We will start with exploring the foundation of being able to live a fully positive and successful life, what prevents it, and then proceed to more detail about the method. There is no point in discussing how to be successful until we have found and corrected the reasons we are not. If the engine is at full power but the plane is tightly tied to the ground, it will not move. First, we must remove the ropes. Personal development happens best and easiest when you are happy, at peace and balanced. Certainly traumatic situations often are […]

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Changing Words To Change Events Does Not Work

The past years have taken a trend in the concept that by changing the words, we can actually change the situation. This is clearly impossible, but yet it does work. I would like to explore how the impossible works. If there is a problem, no matter what you call it, or even if you ignore it, the objective reality of the situation is the same. If you get in the car and it does not start, calling it a problem or a disaster or a situation or an event will not make the car start. However, many people find that by using the word ‘challenge’ or ‘situation’ instead of ‘problem’ […]

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Have No Regrets, Look Forward

I would like to explain why this slogan is the foundation of my philosophy. Like all foundations, there is a lot more to it than you can see, and usually a foundation is buried underground, so its real value is hidden when you look at the building. This article requires a little preamble to get our minds thinking in the same direction. The results and experiences of your life are directly connected to your thoughts, your moods, emotions and energy. Basically, your thoughts will determine the results. This is obvious of course, if you try to sell something to someone or go on a date, and you are negative or […]

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