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How To Give 100% At Everything You Do

If we always did the best we could do, we would certainly excel and be recognized for excellent service and attitude, but we do not. There is always something that holds us back from giving fully and that can be a variety of reasons. The most powerful one is the fear that if you go too far, you may make a mistake and then look bad. Our instinct is to protect ourselves in the interest of getting more in the future. The problem is, that because we hold back, we never reach our potential and that means we do not increase our skills. Holding back means we never really do […]

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The Difference Between Not Caring and Not Being Concerned

Not caring is an empty, dead feeling. Not being concerned is a very alive vibrant feeling that can come by keeping the awareness in the chest with no other thought, fully present. One is full and the other is empty. For this to be a full feeling, training and practice of repeating a word mantra (a mantra is any word that has an emotional impact or value to you) to get your mind focused and being able to sense within your body is necessary to be able to consistently do this on demand or have as a lasting or frequent state. The slightest touch of negative emotions turns it from […]

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Why We Want To Be Able To Do Nothing, But Cannot Do Nothing For Long

We want to be rich so we do not have to do anything that we do not want to do, like go to work at a job we do not like or deal with the hassles of life because we cannot afford to just pay the money and be done with it. We want to live in a peaceful place so we can be completely still and silent and relaxed without obligations or pressure. We want this, yet so few people achieve it. Why? Why do we really want this freedom? For me, the reason is that it is only in that freedom from any obligations of life that my […]

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We Hold Ourselves Back By Confusing One Emotion With Another

We often confuse our emotions with what we think they are as opposed to what they really are. This misinterpretation of our feelings to the opposite will keep us limited as this process most often interprets a wise emotion or intuition as a weak emotion or fear as we try to identify and explain our feelings. Seeing yourself as weak instead of strong will obviously prevent you from getting stronger and dealing with situations appropriately. Someone with low self-esteem said that obnoxious crowds intimidate her so she withdraws emotionally. I would say they disgust her and being disgusted with them, her wisdom and intuition makes her not want to be around […]

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Understanding Words, How To End Anger and Conflicts

Words are our main form of communication. Words have the greatest power to make us happy or sad, aggravated or elated. How can something that has no actual material reality have such a powerful effect over us emotionally and physically? Here is a very old thought that gives an idea of how we can release ourselves from the effects of other peoples words; “If someone gives you a gift, and you do not accept it, who does it belong to?” If someone threw a pillow at you, and you did not react to catch it, it would bounce right off your body and fall away. How one interprets the meaning […]

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Deadlines Are Natural, Resistance Is Futile

Deadlines are a natural part of the universe. There is no need to get stressed and resist them. If there are deadlines in a company, that means there will be deadlines in each department, and then deadlines put on each employee. The principle of cause and effect is seen in action, the original cause, a deadline to the client, trickles down to every link in the chain of creating what the client wants. If there are deadlines in the universe and the planet, there will be deadlines in all of our material world and lives. Everything material will one day come to an end, be it the planet, the universe, and […]

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A Coin Has Three Sides

Everyone knows that a coin only has two sides. But what defines a ‘side’? If the coin can stand or sit on it, then it must be a side. Heads, tails and the edge. Yes, a coin can sit on its edge, so that must be a side. To be on one of the two sides is to be subjective, you are this or that, you know what you are or what the situation is, and that is the perspective you see it from. This is always your subjective view based on how things will serve you the best. However, you may have noticed that this view does not always […]

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How Making Decisions Relates To Depression And Happiness

Scientific studies show that people who feel they have no control over their life are more prone to depression, but people who feel they have control over their life in general are happy and positive. Therefore we can say in a generality that a feeling of lack of control leads to depression. We liken the mind to the tires of a car, in that a poor quality tire gives a very poor ability to control the car, it will not be stable to drive with an off balance wobbly or flat tire. If your mind is not strong and stable enough, you will feel you have no control over events […]

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Work For The Sake Of The Work

In my business career as well as with with my clients and students, I have developed a firm belief that our business success is 10% skill and 90% who we are, the quality of our character. This is exemplified by Richard Branson, a man with little education but now a billionaire with over 200 companies. Clearly he is not a technical master of 200 industries. On the other end of the scale, you may have heard the saying that 10% of the salespeople make 90% of the money. Success is not entirely based on your technical knowledge as much as the clients pleasure of working with someone they know will […]

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Changing Words To Change Events Does Not Work

The past years have taken a trend in the concept that by changing the words, we can actually change the situation. This is clearly impossible, but yet it does work. I would like to explore how the impossible works. If there is a problem, no matter what you call it, or even if you ignore it, the objective reality of the situation is the same. If you get in the car and it does not start, calling it a problem or a disaster or a situation or an event will not make the car start. However, many people find that by using the word ‘challenge’ or ‘situation’ instead of ‘problem’ […]

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